How a Bully Targets

Bullies are inventive so the following list of of what a bully looks for in their targets is basic -

 

Remember:

Bullies need not target their "victims" because they are weak.

 

#You may just be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Bullies are predatory and opportunistic. 

 

#Being good at your job.

 

#Being popular with people.

 

#The bully fears exposure of their inadequacy and incompetence, your presence, popularity and competence unknowingly and unwittingly fuel that fear.

 

#Being the expert and the person to whom people come to for advice, getting more attention than the bully.

 

#Having a well-defined set of values which you will not compromise.

 

#Having a sense of integrity.

 

#Having at least one vulnerability that can be exploited.

 

#Being too old or expensive.

 

#Showing independence of thought or deed.

 

#Jealousy and envy are strong motivators of bullying.

# Unwarranted or invalid criticism while ignoring achievement

 

# Undermine in front of others, raise false concerns, or express doubts over a persons performance or standard of work, however unsubstantiated this may be

 

# Overrule, ignore and isolate a person from what’s happening.

 

# Regularly choose the target by offensive remarks and language or give the silent treatment. 

 

#Single out and unfairly treat a person differently to other members of staff.

 

# Degrade, threaten, or humiliate.

 

# Subject someone to unwarranted or unjustified verbal or written warnings. This falls under  The Employment Act 2002 (Dispute Resolution)

 

# Set goals and deadlines which are unachievable or which are changed without notice or reason.

 

# Deny information necessary for undertaking work whilst others often receive more than they need.

 

# Refuse support if they are a manager.

 

# Overload a person with work or have all their work taken away and replaced with inappropriate jobs.

 

# Increase someone’s responsibility but remove his/her authority.

 

# Have work plagiarised, – the bully then presenting the target’s work as their own.

 

# Find requests for leave unacceptable and place unnecessary conditions, sometimes overturning previous approval.

 

# Send unpleasant or threatening calls or harass with intimidating memos, notes or emails

 

# Invite you to informal meetings which turn out to be disciplinary hearings

 

# Encourage you to feel guilty and to believe you are always the one at fault

 

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-Anon

 

 

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