The main aim of this site is to deal with bullies in the workplace however bullies are present in all walks of life and much of what is on here will be transferable outside the workplace.
You are not alone. Independent research suggests that bullying is happening to around 1 in 4 people and another statistic places it at 3-14 million employees in the UK.
A bully can be male or female and a colleague of equal or lesser comapany status or a person in authority.
The definitions of a bully are:
1) To treat in an overbearing or intimidating manner.
2) To make (one's way) aggressively.
3) To force one's way aggressively or by intimidation.
4) To provide persistent, unwelcome behaviour.
Projection behaviour and denial are hallmarks of the serial bully. It is believed by some that bullying is present behind all forms of harassment, discrimination, prejudice, abuse, persecution, conflict and violence.
What bullies fear most is exposure and being called publicly to account for their behaviour so they can go to great lengths to keep their target (victim) quiet from misdirection when it is reported to using threats of disciplinary action, dismissal, gagging clauses and fear.
Despite the façade that such people put up, bullies have another side to them. What complicates matters is that the bully may not be aware or acknowledge to themselves they very often suffer from one or more of the following:
# Low self-confidence
# Low self-esteem
# Feel insecure
# Seething with resentment
# And may have a wide range of prejudices as a vehicle for dumping anger onto others.
A person may not always aware that they are bullying, however the outcome of bullying behaviour can cause the following conditions in their target.
# Sleep disorders
# Poor self esteem
# Lack of ability to cope with even simple jobs.
# Eating disorders
# Nervous conditions
# Low morale
# Impaired personal relationships
# Removal of self from workplace - psychologically, physically (sick leave, stress leave, resignation)
# Drug Abuse
# Suicide (successful or attempted)
This list is not complete as there are many conditions bullying can cause in the people it is aimed at.